THE LUNCH PAIL INCIDENT

THE LUNCH PAIL INCIDENT

All the classic ‘after school special’ elements were in place… A neighborhood bully, a pudgy newbie to the block, a long walk home from school, and a lunch pail. They made ‘em strong in the 60’s, strong enough to cause a huge welt on the bully’s face one day after the...
Humble Inquiry

Humble Inquiry

After writing discipline defining works in the area of organizational dynamic, culture, and social psychology and a 48 year career as an instructor at MIT, Edgar Schein has written a little book simply titled Humble Inquiry. He defines humble inquiry as, “the fine art...
Learning New Communication Skills

Learning New Communication Skills

If there is any endeavor that fits the needs of every human being (I know that’s a huge statement), it would be increasing our communication skills. Last Saturday, a group of ten learners dug in and challenged themselves to think about leadership and influence using a...
The Black Hole of Yesterday’s Problem

The Black Hole of Yesterday’s Problem

Recently, we illustrated the benefits of inquiry over advocacy and a solutions focus over problem analysis. Today let’s look briefly at the reason for a solution focus when dealing with issues that need to be addressed. When my boys made foolish decisions in their...
MAKE THE BIG SHIFT

MAKE THE BIG SHIFT

We have been talking about shifting from a ‘telling’ preoccupation in our communication to an ‘asking’ posture. Using inquiry rather than direct statements causes deeper thought and reflection in the other person. If we couple that shift with a renewed commitment to...